If you’re still waiting for someone to come and change your life, look in the mirror.
No one can do it for you, but yourself.
Our Inner Animal
You see, we are animals. Animals handle stress in their world depending on their animality: Proactive and Reactive.
Reactive mode of operation allows the external world to become your reality, making you a victim of your world, environment, workplace, home, and essentially your own mind. You are always acting based on the outside stimuli.
Proactive mode of operation allows your internal world, your mind, thoughts and intuition to lead your life, creating your own reality, regardless of the external world.
Proactive animals remove negative stimuli from their environment.
For example, if a tiny electric prod that yields a shock when touched is placed in a mouse’s cage, a proactive mouse will bury the prod, while a reactive mouse will stay away from it. If an intruder mouse enters a proactive one’s cage, the owner mouse responds quickly and aggressively, attacking the intruder and standing its ground until it hides under any cover available. A reactive mouse will mostly just try to hide from intruders.
The Conscious Mind
As humans, we are fortunate.
Unlike animals, our mind has the ability to reconstruct itself and create whatever it is that you tell it to create, through thoughts, actions and repetition.
Best of all, you are in the driver’s seat.
The reason why change may be difficult is because your old habits and conditioning are still present, and the lack of faith in your ability to create a new set of habits and beliefs.
The “secret” universal law of attraction states that we attract what we are. Therefore, whatever your mind repeatedly thinks about and acts on, that’s what it will attract.
Undoubtedly, where you are right now is where you wanted to be, consciously or unconsciously.
Like the tip of the iceberg, that which is seen above the water is your conscious mind. Your conscious thoughts make up only the tip of the iceberg.
Unseen, the foundation of the iceberg underneath the water is your subconscious mind. The subconscious mind is your ‘auto-pilot’ which drives you to work every morning, skips the gym to binge watch Netflix shows every night and chooses to eat chips and popcorn on the weekend.
Unless you consciously decide to change your actions, thoughts and behavior, your current ‘auto-pilot’ will dictate your life’s direction as it has thus far.
Identifying yourself with your current ‘auto-pilot’ does not have to be definite. Ultimately you have the power to change your habits and reprogram your subconscious mind, creating whatever life you desire. The catch is, you must be willing to consciously work for it.
If you want to attract something different, you must become something different.
No one will nor is able to change your world, but yourself.
You create your own reality. In fact our minds are always creating. Try relaxing and think about nothing for 5 minutes. Your mind wanders off, doesn’t it? Eben Pegan calls this ‘being lived’.
In order to create your own reality, you must take control of the wheel (consciously becoming aware of your thoughts, actions and behavior) and direct it towards the destination of your choice.
If you don’t, unconsciously you are allowing the external world to dictate and own your world. Proactive, reactive – remember?
Here’s a practical example.
You wanted to lose 20 lbs. That was 3 years ago. Every new year you said: “That’s it, starting on Monday, I’m going to go to the gym, work out 6 days a week, eat kale and brussels sprouts because “new year, new me.” ” It’s been 3 years and now you have to lose 45 lbs. It’s becoming increasingly difficult and you’ve pretty much given up on yourself.
You may think “You know what? Maybe the fit life is just not in the books for me.”
Well, what happened is that when you told yourself you will start working out and make better food choices, but did not go through with it, you’ve told your subconscious mind that you cannot accomplish it.
Each year that you repeat this cycle you reinforce that belief, solidifying it further and further.
The reality is that the fit life is most definitely for you. You just have to become the kind of person that makes fat loss a priority and shed those unwanted 45 lb off.
Focus All Your Energy on the New You
If you want to create successful change, you must dismiss your past experiences, your past “failures” and struggles and focus on creating new ones.
Day by day, focus all your energy on applying new thought patterns that serve you, taking positive actions that serve you and keep repeating it until your subconscious mind makes it your default state.
One mistake that most individuals make that keeps them in this ugly negative loop is fighting their old conditioning by analyzing it, thinking about it or even worse – identifying themselves with it.
Dismiss the old and focus all your energy on creating the new you.
Envision yourself being fit and looking great on the beach, feeling comfortable and confident in your skin, eating your favorite foods without worries and having plenty of energy to do all the things that you want to do.
It’s important to note that when you decide to change and commit to this journey of reprogramming your subconscious mind, your old conditioning will still interfere.
Be aware that it is simply your past conditioning.
Dismiss it and remain committed to thinking thoughts that serve you, taking positive action and repeating it daily.
Eventually the new conditioning will take its place and you will become the new you.
Final Words
All change starts with you.
Regardless of circumstances and outside world, you must take responsibility for your own life. Everything you need is already inside you.
Like a good friend of mine said: “If you try to change the world, it will change you. If you change yourself, the world will change for you.”
